Team priorities versus personal priorities

Today, a book I’ve been waiting decades for came out. A Memory of Light, by Robert Jordan and Brandon Sanderson. Unfortunately, it’s only available as a hard cover, not an ebook at the moment. I have read only a handful of “real” books since buying a kindle more than three years ago; in ebooks, I’ve read over a hundred titles. However, rather than doing what I had been planning for months…I went to dinner with people I work with. Then spent the next two and a half hours on the computer from work, writing up something to help the team. The first time I had to manage somebody other than myself was 2005, more than a few years ago. Then when I ran my own business, I made mistakes until my partner, and wife, Widhadh corrected me. I’ve learned a fair bit since then but am still trying to improve.

Personally, I’m struggling with what should be my priority and which I should send, “over the wall,” and become a team priority. I have some ideas but they’re still, “baking,” as we like to say where I work. The idea that I ask more of anybody else than I demand of myself feels wrong and I’m not comfortable with where that process leads. So, I ask of others only what I know I would be willing to do if I was in that situation. No more, no less.

Then there is the platinum rule, which I learned about early on in my current role. It’s not, “treat others as you would like to be treated.” Instead, the rule is, “Treat others as they want to be treated.” Eye opening, that message. Instead of treating people how I imagine, in my head, I would want other people to manage me…I figure out the right way, for them as an individual, and do my level best to meet that expectation. I know it’s something I can improve.

To bring this home in an interesting way, my wedding band is platinum. Not gold. I believe that we would all benefit from the platinum rule.